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Hello everyone,

If you are planning a pregnancy, I have a lot to share with you. 🙂 Unfortunately, most of my attempts resulted in failure, but I believe sharing these experiences will save you some time. Let’s take a look together, and if you have experiences in this regard, I am eagerly waiting for them in the comments.

First Attempts and The “Go With the Flow” Misconception

After planning my first pregnancy, I immediately went to the gynecologist for check-ups. Everything looked fine; I was started on folic acid and a Vitamin D supplement as my levels were borderline. I was only 26 years old, and since my periods were regular, my doctor recommended intercourse every other day between the 12th and 17th days of my cycle.

I had heard from others that getting pregnant immediately isn’t always possible, but I wasn’t in a rush. I decided to “go with the flow,” believing life would give it to me at the most beautiful time. We tracked the days, but honestly, “scheduled intercourse” didn’t really excite us. Still, we continued trying with a sense of duty.

If you have ever tried to conceive, you know that as your period approaches, your body starts playing games with you:

• Do I feel nauseous?
• Am I dizzy?
• Did my appetite just increase?

For the first few months, these “phantom symptoms” always ended in disappointment with the arrival of my period. As months passed and I received pregnancy news from people around me, my motivation dropped. I reached a point where I couldn’t even congratulate others. We spent a full year like this.

Alternative Methods and Seeking Medical Help

Since the idea of medical treatments scared me, I started trying methods I learned from the internet:

• Vitamin supplements,
• Heat patches for the lower back,
• Keeping legs up against the wall after intercourse…

I acted as if I were pregnant every month, but the result didn’t change. After 1.5 years, we went to the doctor. My HSG (hysterosalpingography) came back clean, and my ovarian reserves were good. My husband had some minor issues with sperm morphology and was advised to undergo varicocele surgery. After his surgery and a 3-month recovery period, we tried again: Negative again.

My mental health began to deteriorate. I was crying in bathroom stalls and constantly looking for symptoms in myself. People who started this journey at the same time as me now had one-year-olds.

Treatment Begins: Trigger Shots and The First Surprise

We started with the first step of treatment: Ovulation induction (Clomid) and trigger shots. Needles, timed intercourse, and stressful waiting… The first month didn’t work. The second month, we couldn’t even follow the schedule the doctor gave us. Thinking, “There is no chance this month anyway,” I immediately contacted IVF centers to get price information.

Just as I was preparing to start IVF, about 4-5 days before my expected period, I felt an overwhelming sense of sleepiness and fatigue. I went to the doctor to get a prescription for Vitamin D, and they checked my bHCG levels… I was pregnant! And this happened in the month we couldn’t even follow the doctor’s calendar. It turns out my baby was just waiting for the right time to come. 🙂

Second Child: IVF, Financial Losses, and Disappointment

When my daughter turned 1.5, I stopped using contraception because I knew how hard it was for me to get pregnant the first time. I said, “I already have a child, I’m in no rush,” but 2 years passed, and nothing happened. I was now over 30 and wanted my second child before turning 35. I became determined.

This time, I took it seriously and tried everything:

• Alternative Medicine: Ozone therapy, bioresonance, acupuncture, cupping therapy (hijama), and applying oils to the uterus…
• Medical Treatment: Trigger shots again, followed by 2 failed IUI (insemination) attempts…

The last resort: IVF (In Vitro Fertilization). As someone with a fear of needles, I found myself in the middle of that terrible process. Refrigerated medications, secretly doing injections at work, pain from egg retrieval… The result? None of the eggs passed the genetic testing.

Asking “Why isn’t it working?”, I decided to try one more time. Higher doses of medication, weight gain, antidepressants… Out of 8 eggs, only 1 survived, and it also failed the genetic test. We were left with hefty installment payments for two failed IVF attempts and a shattered psychology.

The Second Miracle: The Moment I Gave Up

I had finally accepted it. There was nothing left to try, and no hope left to hold onto. I even stopped having intercourse. 4-5 months passed. That month, we had intercourse only twice, completely randomly.

My period was late. “It’s just the weather change,” I said. 5 days passed. “I can’t bear to take a test and see a single line again,” I said. One week later, my husband bought a test. I didn’t even look at the stick.

While washing my hands, I glanced at the test I had left on the edge of the sink: The second line was there. It was unbelievable. After all that money, all those treatments, and all those tears; it came at the most unexpected moment, exactly when I had given up.